I just watched my cat get mauled by two dogs. I went outside screaming and yelling. They dropped her and she seemed like she’d be ok at first. But then she died. Of course I’m terribly upset. I feel like crap. I wish I’d never have let her out but on the other hand it seemed mean to keep her in when she loved to go outside. I don’t know where those dogs came from. And they were actually friendly dogs. They wanted to play is all. But the guilt. Oh the guilt. I just keep holding her in a blanket, crying. I begged God to save her but he didn’t. I still love God, of course. Death happens. But my kitty. My kitty is gone. I don’t want to take her to the vet where they “dispose” of animals for 45 dollars. I want to bury her under a tree. Please share your stories. It helps to talk about it. Also I called in to work to say I wasn’t coming in. It seemed like they didn’t believe me….oh well. To h— with them.
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I don’t know for sure but you might want to check meetup.com
i watched my cat get hit by a car ( stupid driver ppl!!!) and I chased the woman down, barefoot ( I am tender-footed and never go barefoot, cept in the house and that is rare,too!) and so then I caught her, she didn’t know she had hit my cat. I reached through the window, and …well I can’t tell u the rest, I’ll get reported……anyway, those dogs will get theirs!! Karma,you know. well, there is support groups on the net for lost pets, beliefnet.com, they have an angels forum,there,too. try that.
I am so sorry for your loss. Since it sounds like you know who the dogs that did this are, and who their owners are, then you need to contact the owners and let them know what happened and what their dogs did. You have a right to have the disposal costs paid for by these people- and these dogs need to be reported to animal control so they can be watched for signs of rabies. When dogs gang up like this and take on a pack mentality, animals like cats aren’t the only ones who suffer- people can get hurt too. There are upwards of a MILLION or more people who are hospitalized for dog bites every year in this country alone- and the problem is getting worse, not better. YOU were not the one who is to blame for these dogs’ unprovoked attack on your cat, so get that idea out of your head. It’s the OWNERS of the dogs who are to blame- THEY ARE THE ONES WHO ARE IRRESPONSIBLE, NOT YOU. You had a right to let your cat out in her own yard without worrying about something like this happening.
No, I would not let yourself feel guilty- you are not to blame, and this is not your fault. What I would do, however, is get on the phone with these owners, and with animal control, and get these dogs picked up and put in cages where they belong. You are also within your rights to demand that the dogs’ owners’ get you another cat when you are ready to have one- not now, of course, but when your grief and pain eases a bit and the emotional wounds heal up.
Meanwhile, take care of yourself. Go ahead and cry- that’s a normal, healthy reaction to a loss like this. You need to grieve so you can heal, and it’s not good for you to keep the pain inside. If you want to bury your cat in the back yard under a tree, you should do it. An alternative to this might be to contact a local pet cemetary and arrange to bury your cat there. Check the phone book under ” cemetaries” for information about this. As for the people at work, if they ask you why you didn’t work, tell them the truth- that your cat was mauled to death by some dogs in your neighborhood. If you need to, you can remind them that this is something that could just as easily have happened to THEIR PET. I would imagine that most of your colleagues will react with sympathy and compassion once they learn the truth, because I am sure some of them have lost an animal this way, or have known someone who has. Likewise, I am also equally sure they will be concerned for your safety- because having a pack of dogs around which are aggressive like that is a threat to you and everyone else in the area. Most neighborhoods generally have at least a few children roaming around them, and a pack of aggressive dogs is a threat to them. That’s why you need to get in touch with both animal control and these dogs’ owners’- because otherwise, someone else could get hurt, and that someone might be a child, or the child of someone you know. These animals’ owners were irresponsible and stupid, but that doesn’t mean YOU need to follow their example.
I am going to end by mentioning something which you should read that may give you some comfort, though it won’t bring your cat back. There is a famous poem called “The Rainbow Bridge” which talks about what happens to animals which were loved on Earth after they die. No one knows who wrote the poem, but it is available for online viewing at http://www.rainbowbridge.org. When you get sad, just remember that your beloved cat is up at the Bridge with all her friends and playmates- and that she is not in pain or suffering any more.
Good luck, and I am sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry about your loss.
Although I am not Buddhist, some friends of mine sent me this link after I lot my little manx last year. It is a lovely tribute site full of support.
http://www.littlelotushearts.com/home.html
I had made it clear at my work that if anything ever happened to her that I would take my proper grief time. I know not all work areas are that open minded. “Catfancy” magazine has regular articles on grieving and you may want to check their website as well.
There may be some pet grief groups near you-check with a local vet, they probably would know.
Be gentle with yourself and let the tears come.
Take care, ok.
Hi
I am truly sorry for your loss.I had my dog cremated and I keep her tucked away. I also had her pawprint pressed and dried in clay and of course several pictures and snippet of her coat. My heart really goes to you.
Here is one idea :http://pet.memoryglass.com/?OVRAW=death%20of%20a%20pet&OVKEY=death%20of%20a%20pet&OVMTC=standard&OVADID=5872603011&OVKWID=30790533011
and a site for support places -please scroll and read the page.
:http://www.vetmed.ucdavis.edu/ccab/petloss.html